Assertiveness : The self is the essence of the personality of the individual in which the features of a person are determined and this is through the stages of his life, and therefore he is affected by the environment in which he lives, but he is different from others by his representations of himself negatively or positively.

 

It is the ability of the individual to express appropriate rhetoric and behavior about his feelings, thoughts and opinions towards the people and attitudes around him and claim his rights he deserves without injustice or aggression.

One of the personal aspects that shows its association with success or failure in social relations is what is called assertiveness or assertiveness or what has recently been called “freedom to express feelings”. The concept of self-affirmation refers to two characteristics that have been shown to distinguish successful people from the psychological and effective health viewpoints in Social relations. The first person to refer to this concept and formulate it scientifically and to reveal its health implications is the American scientist “Salter” (1949) who indicated that this concept represents a general personality characteristic (such as introversion or extroversion), that is, it exists in Some are assertive in different situations, and may not be available in others, so it becomes negative and unable to assert itself in different social situations.

 

we mean the general nature of family life in terms of security, clarity of roles, determination of responsibilities, forms of control, method of satisfying human needs, nature of relations between family members, and the prevailing spiritual, religious and moral lifestyle among them, which gives a connected or fractured family personality.

 

This means that the character refrains from saying what she wants, thinks or feels, as well as speaks in a way that underestimates the other side, uses words of apology that carry more than one meaning and have hidden meanings or vague words or resort to silence.

 

– His thinking is negative.– Usually he suffers from psychological problems (depression – anxiety).

– Difficulty solving his problems.

– Failure in most of his jobs (work – family).

– He is a victim of some problems (addiction  abnormalities – social convergence).

– His self-esteem is poor.

– He does not enjoy his rights.

 

This means that the character sincerely says what you mean, what you feel in a clear and direct way, and also helps the other party to understand it, and always updates her choices and communicates with skill and a moderate temperament, the character uses expressions of her words that are clear, logical and few but she is tightly chosen.

 

– satisfied with himself.– Open to all experiences.

– Enjoy better mental health.

– He has good social relations.

– Self-confident.

– Successful in a coin.

– Strong in his personality.

– Enjoy most of his rights.

– Able to solve and overcome his problems.

– Proud of himself.

 

This means the character says what you want, thinks and feels, but on the responsibility of others it also uses words full of accusations and also full of expressions of blame and blame for the other party Always use the threatening and accusing method, believing that it is only in the right path

Several studies have been done in order to study the relationship between the family climate and assertive behavior, whether positive behavior, negative behavior or aggressive behavior, including the study of Nader Abu Ayyash (1992). This study aimed to know the effect of both family upbringing and age on self-assertion among students at a stage Middle adolescence, the “Abu Jabal” family upbringing scale and the self-assertion scale of Rathus were used. The results showed that female students who received a democratic family upbringing were more certain to themselves than others who were raised in a family practicing authoritarian upbringing. Also, a study by Roe of samples of individuals showed a group of biologists, physics and social sciences who enjoy good mental health in the light of one of its most prominent manifestations is mental superiority, and it relied on the curriculum vitae of scientists as it revealed the factors that led and contributed to the formation of the ability of these Scientists on innovation and the study reached results stating that these scientists were treated by their parents for a treatment characterized by freedom and a high degree of independence and sound family relations as well as the satisfaction of their needs, meaning that the family climate of these scholars was a healthy family climate. As well as the study of Elham Nsour (2004), which aimed to know the relationship between the pattern of family upbringing on the one hand, and the concept of self and self-affirmation on the other hand, among male and female students in the tenth grade in Amman. The sample of the study consisted of 358 students. The results of the study showed that there is a correlation between the democratic pattern in upbringing and the concept of the self in the intellectual and school dimension and after the contentment and happiness of the concept of the self and there is a relationship between the democratic style and self-affirmation in commercial transactions, argument, general and automatic discussion and avoiding confrontation in a public place.

We conclude from the results of studies conducted in this field that they agreed on the existence of a positive correlation between the family climate represented in the family relationships intact on the one hand to satisfy the needs of the children on the one hand and the manifestations of sound mental health. Whenever the family relations are good and coherent between the parents and between family members and all of them are based on love, respect and cooperation, as well as each person fulfilling his responsibilities towards his family and satisfying the needs of the children in a moderate manner, whenever a healthy prisoner climate is common that works to create a free psychological climate free from the factors of cessation which enriches the field Psychological as appropriate, which gives the individual more opportunities to use the factors and mental energies and other emotional energies.

Prepare the counselor Dr. Fatin Mirza